We talk about resilience a lot on this podcast, so it’s important to remember what that means with someone who knows from personal experience.
It’s not always about being ‘tough’ or only focusing on the masculine energy of life, it’s about being compassionate, motivated, and responsible for your choices.
It’s about bouncing back from the challenges of life, but with the vision and determination to take you somewhere new. Aren Singh Bahia understands the effort it takes to turn your life around, and how that doesn’t always look like going ‘back’ at all.

How do you lead? Leadership often gets confused with control, or even worse, domination. With bending people to our will and enforcing our way of doing things, but it doesn’t have to work like that at all. The earth herself teaches us that systems thrive through balance, sensitivity and nuance. We are all part of the planet, so why would it be any different with people?

Vulnerability might not be something we immediately associate with leadership.
Many of us grew up with infallible superhuman action heroes, who never put a foot wrong or suffered a moment of doubt, but those days are over. People need leaders who they can relate to, who they can make a human connection with.

Nobody is responsible for your life but you. Does that sound scary? It shouldn’t.
So many people in this world are driven by fear, fear of judgement from other people, fear of failure, and even fear of themselves. Taking responsibility for our life is a big deal, but whether we do it or not doesn’t change the basic reality. We are all on our own path, and while people may come and go from our lives, and we can try and put the responsibility for our choices on them, at the end of the day it all comes back to us.

Where you are today doesn’t have to define your tomorrow.
Whatever your situation right now, it doesn’t take much to transform your life, you just need the right elements in place. Maybe you’re holding on to some negativity or suffering from your past, maybe that makes you doubt yourself, and question whether you’ve really got what it takes to bring about real positive change. Maybe you’re stuck in the same old daily routine. If that sounds like you, if your past is dragging you down, then you need to think seriously about changing your environment.

Everyone talks about self love as if it’s something that just appears out of nowhere, as if we should just expect to love ourselves infinitely without any effort, but it’s more complicated than that. Everyone is looking for love, it’s part of being human, but if we don’t feel it from ourselves we become dependent on getting it from other people. That can start us on a dangerous path of focusing on what other people think of us and trying to please them, instead of focusing on our own legitimate needs.

Everyone talks about self love as if it’s something that just appears out of nowhere, as if we should just expect to love ourselves infinitely without any effort, but it’s more complicated than that. Everyone is looking for love, it’s part of being human, but if we don’t feel it from ourselves we become dependent on getting it from other people. That can start us on a dangerous path of focusing on what other people think of us and trying to please them, instead of focusing on our own legitimate needs.

We live in an age of change. Everything we thought we knew about the world just a few years ago is suddenly being challenged by new ideas, and things that we were sure about suddenly find themselves called into question. And that’s great! It’s totally natural to hesitate a moment, or to be unsure about things that we don’t fully understand, and that’s exactly why the most important tool at your disposal is knowledge.

When we’re at our lowest point, we often feel helpless and hope that some kind of miracle will just happen. But what we might have forgotten is that we actually have everything we need to fix things. We are the miracle. We have the tools inside us. Don’t just wait till someone comes and throws you a rope for you to climb up, build your own ladder instead. Think about it, where you are today didn’t just happen like that. It took pain, struggle, and tears. Push yourself beyond what you think you can handle. In fact, forget what you think, and trust what you believe. It will reconfigure your capacity to overcome.   

These days it’s become all about strategy, always trying to be two steps ahead of everyone else, second guessing ourselves and everyone around us, but is that really the path to fulfillment and happiness? Aren’t we at risk of just trying to win at someone else’s game?
If we were able to retain our natural human focus, we would always ask those kinds of great questions.